Make a deliberate choice to complain less

Many of us have a habit of complaining, whether it’s to impress others with how busy or challenging our lives are, or simply to seek sympathy. It’s rare to hear someone say they had a great day without any complaints, especially when talking to their spouse after work. There’s often a fear that admitting to having a good day might make us appear weak or like our lives are too easy.

Some people even complain to their partners about their workday to avoid being asked to do too much when they get home. And many of us want to be recognized and respected for our hard work, so we hesitate to share the positive aspects of our day for fear of losing that appreciation or being taken for granted.

But focusing on the negative is just a habit, and it’s not a healthy one. Complaining tends to spread like wildfire, and if we don’t actively try to complain less, we’ll likely keep doing it.

Since I started paying more attention to the best parts of my day, I’ve realized that there are so many interesting and enjoyable moments that I used to overlook. I’ve learned to appreciate stimulating conversations, interesting challenges, and personal connections with friends and colleagues. And because of this shift in focus, I find myself less bothered by the everyday hassles that used to annoy me.

Many of us have a habit of complaining, whether it’s to impress others with how busy or challenging our lives are, or simply to seek sympathy. It’s rare to hear someone say they had a great day without any complaints, especially when talking to their spouse after work. There’s often a fear that admitting to…